Saturday, August 05, 2006

Get out the smelling salts--another breast is in full view

"I was shocked to see a giant breast on the cover of your magazine."

"I immediately turned the magazine face down."

"Gross."

"I shredded it. A breast is a breast--it's a sexual thing. He [13-year-old son] didn't need to see that."

"Men are very visual. When they see a woman's breast, they see a breast--regardless of what it's being used for."

"I don't want my son or husband to accidentally see a breast they didn't want to see."

"Gross, I am sick of seeing a baby attached to a boob."

These are some of the things people said about the oh, so shocking idea that a photograph of a woman breast-feeding a baby should be on the cover of a magazine about babies.

There were also several people who supported the idea of including a breast on the cover of BabyTalk, whose cover story is about breast-feeding. And several who said they supported a woman's right to breast-feed, but didn't want to see the photo.

Women sometimes say they want to breast-feed their babies, but know they will have to do it in public, and do not want to deal with the negative attitudes of those around them. They also do not think they should have to take their babies into a restroom in order to feed them.

Last year, a breast-feeding mother was kicked out of a Metairie, Louisiana Starbucks by the manager. "I'm sorry," he told her, "but you can't do this. Personally, I don't have a problem with it, but my customers will." The woman told the manager she was sure it was illegal (in Louisiana, it is illegal) to refuse service to a breast-feeding woman, and his brilliant answer was: "Well, I don't don't know about that, but you can't do it here."

She has since filed a discrimination suit against Starbucks. It turns out that not only is it illegal in Louisiana to kick a breast-feeding woman out of a coffee shop, it is also against Starbucks' official policy.

But I digress. The fact that people are repelled by the sight of a woman's breast is just one more example of misogyny in this culture, and much of it is internalized misogyny. And as for the woman who is convinced that all men are going to get turned on--something I seriously doubt--by the sight of the BabyTalk cover--for the sake of argument, let's say she's right. So what? If passing a drugstore newsstand gives someone a moment of pleasure, whom is it hurting?

A 2004 survey showed that 43% of Americans thought women should have the "right" to breast-feed in public.

A society with a multi-billion dollar pornography industry that repeatedly depicts the breasts of women who are being dehumanized and degraded is the same society that goes berserk if someone spots a woman's breast against a baby's mouth. Obviously, some women do not understand what breasts are for.

4 Comments:

Good lord. I think it's ridiculous that people are so terrified of seeing a breast in this country. Everyone has nipples. It's a fact. Some have three! I really just hope that someday people are more appalled by acts of war and violence than by a part of a woman's body (which, clearly, was made by satan to thwart otherwise holy and virtuous men.)

By Anonymous Anonymous, at 12:32 PM  

I really hate to side with the idiots who think that breastfeeding women should keep that stuff at home, and really I'm not. I am absolutely FOR women breastfeeding their kids. I have no problem with that magazine cover and I think people who do are expressing indefensible positions. My problem is that I think breastfeeding women should mostly keep that stuff at home too. Not because I am afraid of a furtive glimpse of a breast, but because I'm sick to death of people taking their screaming newborns and toddlers places they have no business being. An example would be the very nice, dimly lit, restaurant with a prominent bar and no kiddie menu where my husband and I used to enjoy our anniversary and other special occasion meals with a glass of wine and adult conversation. The last two times we were there, people brought in their babies and toddlers, who proceeded to scream their lungs out, ruining any chance that this special occasion and expensive meal would be enjoyed by anyone else who happened to be there. People with children who aren't old enough to be trusted not to scream, throw food, or run unattended through the restaurant bothering the other patrons, should get a babysitter or stay freaking home or at least recognize that there are limits to where they should take their kids. There should be some places left where adults can go and enjoy themselves in a infant and toddler-free zone. I'm sure that most of the people at that Starbucks were thinking much the same thing. The breast isn't the problem. The problem is the screaming infant who can be relied on to destroy the calm, coffee-drinking, paper-reading ambiance that is the only reason for going to a Starbucks. Really, why would anyone think this is a place for an infant anyway? It isn't, in my opinion.

By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2:14 PM  

There is no evidence that anyone at the Starbucks objected to the woman. It was the manager who "knew" they would. I live in Louisiana and do not see people objecting to women who breast-feed in such places.

In my experience, babies who are being breast-fed are not screaming, precisely because they are being fed.

Having dispensed with those two thoughts, I'll say that I agree with you that young children who are loud and unruly have no place in quiet, intimate restaurants, where the atmosphere is destroyed for the rest of the clientele. As for Starbucks, I wish it were quiet, but it full of people talking on their cell phones.

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