It isn't just gays who are being insulted here

Oh, dear--one of my favorite subjects has come up again, this time at Pam's House Blend. Pam has a post about WRKO (Boston)'s radio personality John DePetro, who called Big Dig director Matt Armorello a "fag." This is how DePetro tried to back out of it:

And I don't mean gay fag, I just mean the way when you're a sophomore, juvenile, in grammar school and somebody would say you're like a sissy boy fag. I don’t mean gay fag. I mean like sissy boy. He’s a little sissy boy. Wife wears the pants.

My issue is not that DePetro called Armorello a fag (well, yes, that is one of my issues, but not my reason for posting). It is that, in trying to back out of his statement, his "explanation" was to insult all women, and that no one is going to protest his vile attitude about women. The above statement by DePetro sends that old message that the worst thing a man can be is a "woman," and that it is totally ridiculous to imagine a woman having power within a marriage. You have to insult women in extremely overt and over-the-top ways these days to hear even a peep of protest, and sometimes you don't hear it then, either.