Why, as a Second Wave feminist, I sometimes have to bang my head against the wall
Today I was talking with some people and the man said he was in a serious relationship and would eventually marry his beloved, but there was no timetable. "At some point, I don't know when, I'll ask her to marry me," he said.
"What if she asks you next week?" I asked him.
He cracked up.
I told him it was a serious question. The other woman in the room said "Yes, what if she does?"
He looked at us as if we had just landed from Mars.
"What if she asks you next week?" I asked him.
He cracked up.
I told him it was a serious question. The other woman in the room said "Yes, what if she does?"
He looked at us as if we had just landed from Mars.
posted by Diane at 7:46 PM
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Why I, as a Third Wave feminist, sometimes have to bang my head against the wall:
Woman in the chair next to me today at the salon (~25yo): I don't like his last name.
Hairdresser: Then don't take it.
Woman: (like it's NEVER occurred to her) I can't do that.
Hairdresser: Why? What's the big deal?
Woman: It's just not right.
/scene w/ me writhing on the floor.
Um, I guess my suggesting he take her last name would've gone over like a fart in church. Sigh.
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Anonymous, at
9:52 PM
Oh god, I would have had to have said something. I can't handle those moments.
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Diane, at
10:14 PM
ae, it's sad that even the mindset of some women are still in the 1700's. For me, as a Third Wave Feminist, this is very embarassing. Were these women in a coma during the sixties and seventies? Same goes for the men who act like it's a crime for a woman to propose or don't want to change their original last-name.
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Anonymous, at
1:04 AM
I find that a lot of these women are Xers--daughters of the Second Wave. They know there are issues, but they deny how those issues affect them. They have made a deal to live with the more subtle aspects of sexism.
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Diane, at
10:02 AM
The forces of evil have allied against us, sisters, for some Xers and especially Gen Yers, have adopted the adolescent fantasies of The Man as if they were their own empowered expression. Hence, all the little tummy t-shirt airhead hotties sucking on f*cking lollipops and thinking they "own" their sexuality because they chose to wear a t-shirt that reads: Porn Star. No, thanks. (What happened to thinking?)
This reminds me, did either of you see that interview Barbara Walters did with Demi Moore after Moore's film "Striptease" (?) came out? I think I lost a good 4 years off my life after that. Same ol' masochistic, bootlicking, look-at-me-to-value-me crap. Awful. My queendom for showing women their true power.
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Anonymous, at
9:39 PM
I didn't see it, and I'm sorry to hear about it. I thought Demi was hipper than that.
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Diane, at
10:09 PM
Talking about Demi Moore made me think of something Gwyneth Paltrow said a couple of years ago--that she was surprised by "forward women" who asked men out.
I wanted to shake her until her undeveloped brains rattled. No time for dating now, though, since she's the only woman in history who has ever given birth.
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Diane, at
10:46 PM
All of this reminds me of a study, I saw a few years back, which found that an alarming majority of male college students viewed women who asked them out as sluts.
Apparently, 'nice girls' still wait to be asked.
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egalia, at
2:54 AM
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